On The Passing Of My Aunt

In every family and in every community there will always be iconic figures and in my family “Missie” or Aunt Sylvia, to use her formal name, gave us a towering example of how to navigate the oceans of life regardless of the weather. I asked myself recently, “Was she happy?” and the answer must be that, whether she was or not happy in any particular moment, she never complained or muttered about life or her situation. She had no breath saved for complaining but always sought some reason to be positive or forward thinking regardless of her current circumstances. This was the heart of her inspirational standing in my family.

Towards the end of her life, she died at one hundred years of age, she was in hospital suffering from an infection. When I rang her she said, “Entertainment is low, but there are seagulls dancing, Dancing on the grass” and then she chuckled at the wonder of it all. She was not really interested in a conversation about her health but only in the view going forward, and that is her lesson to us all.

She was just over one hundred years old when she died. At the age of twenty three she was in Vienna when Hitler’s troops moved into the city near the start of the war in which her loved then fiancé died in a submarine. She was a more than gifted pianist, trained at the Royal College of Music but most of all she was a gutsy, uncrushable walker of life, mother of four children by my Uncle, a much-loved character himself, and always she was armed by a deep faith in her god and the beauty of awareness. I shall miss her dearly: she brought music to all that knew her.


About Peter Wells aka Countingducks

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30 Responses to On The Passing Of My Aunt

  1. Al says:

    Beautiful tribute to an obviously wonderful lady. We all need a beacon to keep us off the rocks of life. Mine was my maternal grandfather.

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  2. davidprosser says:

    Some people just make the world a more beautiful place. This sounds like a wonderful tribute to just such a person Peter.

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  3. This is a lovely tribute Peter and I’m sorry for your loss.

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  4. I”m sorry for your loss, Peter; your love and admiration for her showed through in every word you wrote, and I cannot help but cry about the loss of such a vibrant soul…

    Still, to be remembered in such a tribute ensures that some of the best parts of her live on through you. Thank you for allowing us to meet her, and share a little of your grief…

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  5. What a marvellous lady. My sympathy to you and your family, Peter.

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  6. mikesteeden says:

    It is a rare thing in the very old that one can risk asking, ‘And how are you this fine morn?’ and end up wishing you’d killed said question at birth. Beautiful piece of writing by the way.

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  7. Debbie W. says:

    What a heartfelt tribute to your aunt. I am sorry for your loss.

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  8. a marvellous character portrait, Peter. In each there are traits that can enable us to enrich our lives. Well written.

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  9. bloggeray says:

    May she find peace in the afterlife too. Excellent post and beautiful obituray.

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  10. Ah, what a life, and what a wonderful tribute to be able to write, even in mourning. I’m often inspired by how much one person can bring to our lives, because it reminds me that each of us can bring our own brand of her music and optimism into the lives of those that we share some parts of our lives with. Sending much love xx

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  11. gotham girl says:

    What an amazing 100 years! To have left such an impact! RIP Auntie Sylvia!! So sorry for your loss Peter…

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  12. At first I wasn’t sure if this was fact or one of your fictional gems. She must have been a wonderful inspiration!

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  13. ksbeth says:

    what a wonderful person she was. i hope she is somewhere dancing with the seagulls on the grass.

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  14. catterel says:

    How lovely to have had the privilege of such a lady in your life. RIP Missy, and may she long be remembered with such love and warmth.

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  15. piratepatty says:

    Beautiful. What an amazing woman she must have been.

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  16. gwpj says:

    Thank you for sharing this Peter. Your aunt reminds me of my great-aunt Minnie (always undaunted no matter what the circumstances happened to be, and she’d had several), and her sister (my grandma Mary) who saw the funny side of things that upset other folks). I recall getting sick all over my brother’s sleeping form one night on a trip, when everyone was upset but grandma Mary, who was laughing so hard she was weeping. I consider such people the Crown Jewels in our families. 🙂

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  17. Scarlet says:

    Like my Gran, and my Aunt – such great resilience – and who I aspire to be like, but often fall short. My sympathies to you, Mr Ducks.


  18. Hi Peter,

    I am so sorry for your loss. This is a beautiful tribute to an extraordinary lady.

    I hope your memories of her will help ease the pain of your loss.

    Sending you healing thoughts and prayers.


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  19. I love dancing seagulls. They make me smile, too.


  20. jmmcdowell says:

    Such a lovely tribute to your aunt. She sounds like a remarkable woman. Wishing you fond memories of your time together.


  21. nelle says:

    My condolences to all who knew and loved her.


  22. ***Entertainment is low, but there are seagulls dancing, Dancing on the grass***

    beautiful, Peter. xxx


  23. My sincere condolences Peter xx


  24. This is a lovely tribute you have written, Peter. Sending hugs your way x

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  25. Al says:

    Hi again, Peter. I seem to be having trouble getting a hold of you. Could you check your message on Facebook or email me at poppyalvah@hotmail.com?


  26. Caroline says:

    Hugs. Your tribute could have been about my Dad – so similar in outlook. My Dad died at 100, also a pianist…. xx

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  27. she was a lucky lady! to have that heart and attitude.


  28. Popcaan says:

    What a lovely spirit she was and still will remain in the hearts of all dear to her. You were blessed to have her. May she rest in peace.


  29. Thanks for checking out my blog, and I’m glad to have found yours. I enjoy reading your thoughts; you have have a wonderful way with words. Your aunt sounds like she was a lovely and inspirational woman. We all need someone like that in our lives.


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