Inner Life and ‘Inner Chick’


In Blogland I  invisibly meet a large number of people, some more known to me than others, as we read each other’s posts. I write now, because I am always in awe of how some people shape and use their inner experience to benefit and enrich the lives of others. Inner chick ( http://myinnerchick.com/ ) is one such person.

‘Inner Chick’ is a blog I have followed for two years, or somewhere near that time, and written by a women who does not refine her emotions. They are raw, expressive, and generous. She embraces life , in a manner which inspires me, and the reason for this soon becomes clear.

Her sister was murdered in  2010, and the love she felt and feels for her, and the closeness and intimacy they shared, lives on in life, and in her Blog. Her writings are a testament to her spirit, and a cry against those who victimize others through domestic violence. She writes in a direct, immediate and striking style which  involves you in her thoughts and in her world.

If you click on the links in her Blog there is a section concerning domestic violence. The whole idea of it is sickening, of course, and she defines it so well,  stressing the need to get out from under it now. No life is worth giving a bully a second chance: no excuse can ever explain one person hitting another to subdue and demoralise them. It is an abomination lived out behind drawn curtains. Her Blog,  and the cause it gives voice to, deserve all the support they can get

I have always loved the warmth of her, and the larger than life generosity of spirit which informs her work. She is married to an English guy called ‘Mr Liverpool’ which might give you a clue to the soccer team he supports. One of his relatives was getting married over here ( UK ) and the whole family came over to the wedding. I arranged to meet them one day under the clock at Waterloo Station in London.

Sure enough, not too long after the appointed hour, and at nearly the right spot, I saw a smallish smartly turned out women peering at me quizzically: a pleasant-looking man was by her side. After a time she came over to me and asked if I was ‘Peter’: a pseudonym I use in real life, and I confirmed I was. The three of us  went off to enjoy the British version of coffee or, to put it another way, a cup of faintly brackish liquid softened by milk and sugar while their boys went off to do something more entertaining. Let me just tell you that in  face to face meetings she is beyond nice and charming and, what is more, the bearing of her whole family would be an example to many of us. To add to the experience, her husband is as nice as her: he was  tolerant and understanding while his wife and I exchanged blogging chatter and got over the shock of realising that real people exist behind these lines we read.

We sat and chatted about everything and nothing, as you do, and all the time I wondered how so much love and warmth of spirit could flow out of someone whose family had been blighted by the actions of a monster. How she had refused to become a victim of that experience, but for herself and for her sister, shouted out from the rooftops against the sickening and often concealed violence and bullying which blights so many lives. She is one of those people you would be proud to call a friend, and I am one, albeit one living at some distance from her.

Anyway, without further ado, I am now going to put the photograph up, which her kind husband took on the day. As I have mentioned before, and with the proof now before you, I do not offer any fashion tips. The picture has not been photo shopped because I don’t know how to do it, but next time I really must comb my hair. Read her Blog. It is a treasure of the internet.

Me and KIM aka 'Inner Chick@ at Waterloo

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About Peter Wells aka Countingducks

Trying to remember what my future is
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50 Responses to Inner Life and ‘Inner Chick’

  1. hadassaab says:

    Reblogged this on hadassaab.

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  2. Caroline says:

    I will follow your advice. And do you mean to tell me you didn’t have cakes with your coffee!

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  3. Kirri White says:

    There’s nothing better than meeting up in real life and your story here is both heartwarming and funny – just as I would expect from you.

    I’m going to pop over to your friends blog now. Thanks for the introduction.
    BTW – It’s so wonderful to see a photo of you xx

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  4. catterel says:

    Lovely post, Ducks. And what a heartwarming photo. Just had a look at Inner Chick – no kidding. Great blog. What a wonderful place this Blogosphere is! Thanks – yet again.

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  5. Thank you for this lovely tribute to your very real friend! i ill have a look at her blog as you suggest.

    It is a very special experience to eventually meet (ouch! Split infinitive) our virtual friends. It happened for me recently with a fellow MS warrior! And I am hoping to meet up in the not too distant future with a lovely blogger who has a Mindful Balance blog which has helped me hugely.

    And as for your hair, well I think its just fine as it is, windswept and interesting! And I have no idea how to photoshop stuff, and anyway when we do that we take away a bit more “real” and thats just silly. That’s what I think anyway! 🙂

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  6. I love it when, somewhere in the mass of humanity, we find connection. How delightful you had the opportunity to meet the voice behind the passion. And now you have added another address to my incoming blog alerts.

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  7. Two bloggers I respect and admire! I would have loved to join you!! How special to get to meet in person!!

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  8. —What an honor to be over here in London inside your virtual world, Peter. I remember seeing you at Waterloo thinking, “Yes, This is HIM! This is my sweet Ducky.”

    I thank you for bringing awareness to this epidemic of Domestic Violence. You are a man after my heart. The more AWARENESS…The STRONGER we become. Together.

    My sister Kay would have loved you & your passion for life.

    Mr. Liverpool says Hello. I am sending him this blog immediately.

    Love love Love. Xx

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  9. Karen Sosnoski says:

    I loved your apt descriptions of Kim’s generous, strong-minded blog as well as the warming scene of your meeting. Thanks for bringing to life this advocate for victims of domestic violence.

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  10. elizabeth says:

    How lucky you were to meet our Kim. I “met” Kim on blogland in 2008 also and I told her that her writing felt like a very ripe peach and I loved that comparison. But once Kay was murdered, her writing was so full of pain and angst and I used to worry for her. But our Kim came back stronger and more determined to make sure this world became a safer place for the women who suffer.I know one day I will meet Kim and we will have wine! Thanks for letting your part of the world know about Kim. You are a lucky man – with or without a comb that day. 🙂 elizabeth

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  11. Terri says:

    Hi Peter I have known Kim for years and she is all you said and more, she is the real deal and Dave Mr. Liverpool is the same they are wonderful people and the LOVE for Kay will live on and on through Kim. Cheers

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  12. What a wonderful tribute to one of the great voices of the blogosphere. I was also fortunate to meet Kim this year, it was everything you described.

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  13. Lafemmeroar says:

    Oh how wonderful!!!!!!!!

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  14. Joe Peterson says:

    Kim is a dear, sweet friend of mine, and I worked with both her and Kay in our local school district – THANK YOU for sharing a piece of their story and helping raise awareness.

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  15. Barbara says:

    What a wonderful tribute to an incredible human being! Seeing two of my favorite bloggers together makes me very happy. I found Kim right here on your blog, Peter. I believe we will all meet one day for a glass of wine and some amazing conversation. Maybe at your book launch?? This is why I LOVE blogging! It is all about the people you meet, and then learn to love.
    xob

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  16. lisa thomson says:

    A lovely tribute to a lovely woman and her blog!

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  17. I’m so happy for the two of you! Having the opportunity to meet Internet friends and fellow bloggers in real life is a special thing. The picture is beautiful and real and charming. Thank you for sharing your meet-up, and for shining light on domestic violence. Peace.

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  18. beverlydiehl says:

    I sure hope my path crosses Kim’s in person someday (and your, too 🙂 ). We may not ever be able to prevent ALL domestic violence, but surely if we work together, we can make it become RARE instead of FREQUENT.

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  19. It must have been wonderful to meet Kim in person! She does seem to have a beautiful heart.

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  20. Beautiful Both! Your hearts shine out at us just from the photo. So humbled and happy to know both of you in our little blogosphere. Love that you got to meet!!! So fantastic that is, I am not often jealous but I could green eye that one if I weren’t so darn happy for the two of you connecting, lol 😉 Much love always.

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  21. debbie says:

    So interesting to read this! I have also been reading Kim’s blog for about 2 years at least and love the way she writes. I feel everything she writes. Such a wonderful person and compassionate spirit!

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  22. Lovely post. Kim sounds like a great lady. Thanks for posting the photo too—I often suspect bloggers aren’t real.

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  23. lbddiaries says:

    Kim is an amazing woman, full of strength and power. Her voice gets better and better. I love when she introduces us to her other blog friends!!

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  24. Dad says:

    A great post, I am so proud of Kim, she has done so much to tell others not to be silent.
    She has done so much for domestic violence by her blogs and getting involved and getting
    others involved.By the way I love London but not their coffee.

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  25. Ina says:

    You look great 🙂

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  26. Glad to see the picture of such a wonderful couple spreading happiness:)

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  27. It is lovely that you both had a chance to meet each other. Bullying of any sort, whether it is physical or emotional or both is abhorrent and I take my hat off to her for campaigning against domestic abuse after what happened. It’s also nice to put a face to your name after exchanging so many comments. 🙂

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  28. backonmyown says:

    I call her “Chicky” and I call you “Ducks” and I love both of you. Thanks for this post and for the photo. Now I can put an image with “Ducks.”

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  29. Lovely photo! And ‘story’ – so wonderful that you could meet. And what an amazing woman.

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  30. nelle says:

    My favourite post by you. For all your abilities in storytelling, this one cuts through the imagined and touches real life. I will make it a point to read her blog, for this is a subject close to my heart. As for your picture, Peter… don’t change one thing. Not one thing.

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  31. Wonderful photograph. You are progressing, Peter–you got a photo inserted into a post. And what a great photo! Now I know what you look like! How would you describe that look? What ever it is, it is priceless! 🙂

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  32. Ampbreia says:

    What a nice meeting! And how wonderful that she moved on from her bad experiences to improve her life and the of her family rather than let her past ruin her.

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  33. Wonderful snippit of life. Thanks for sharing it.

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  34. Ampbreia says:

    I’ve nominated you for the Liebster Award by the way. Go and check my blog for details.

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  35. donnaeve says:

    This is a great story in many, many ways. First off, b/c I love the picture and having a face to your “name.” (Peter, or Ducks, or Ducky, whichever!) Secondly b/c of the support you are displaying for InnerChick…I will visit her blog as soon as I post this. I’m a victim of DV…and although that was a LONG time ago, you never forget it. I am sorry for her loss…but, am happy for her fortitude and resilience.

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  36. Thank you so much! I love the way you take us by the hand and introduce us around, opening new doors. You got a unique writing style. Powerful pen guiding your readers, igniting their interest. Thank you so much! Be Blessed! ♥

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  37. What a testament to surviving strong. My prayers to Inner Chick.

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  38. gotham girl says:

    What an incredible tribute…I’m off to check out inner chick’s blog! Thank you!

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  39. poppy23 says:

    Awesome photo! : ))

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  40. Jen says:

    This was a great read first thing in the morning. Restored my faith in the communal aspect of the Internet and of blogging. Thank you! (And good,on you too, as I get nervous meeting people in real life that I know so well through social media. .its the introvert in me)

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  41. Toby says:

    Excellent and heartwarming. I have cross-blogged (with image make-over but no way could I sort out your hair) here: http://speakerscornerme.wordpress.com/2013/10/05/inner-life-and-inner-chick/ . Am following Kim too now. Thank you for such a warm piece to inspire us bloggers!

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  42. I am so jealous…. I too have been reading Inner Chick for about two years and one day so want to meet her in real life…

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  43. Pete Armetta says:

    Charming and wonderfully articulated.

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  44. jguenther5 says:

    My first introduction, or I should say exposure to British coffee was at Heathrow. It was not bad. Horrendous, perhaps. Awful, hideous, horrible, yes. But bad? No. Insidious, yes, that gets to the meat of it: It was not merely bad; it was so bad that I refused to believe my tastebuds and went back and took another sip. Shudder.

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    • Let me apologise, if I may, on behalf of the entire country, including a selection of skilfully domesticated animals, for this traumatic experience, and suggest you stick to tea next time: much more reliable

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  45. What a heartwarming introduction…I will definetly pay her a visit 🙂

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  46. That’s really nice, that it turned out so well! I’ll definitely go over.

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  47. What a lovely post… so nice that you both found time to meet each other… I will be sure to find time to pay her a visit… thanks for sharing…. Barbara

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  48. xrixy says:

    you weren’t looking bad though. Nice piece. I’d check her blog

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