Over time I have had my success and failures and this has meant I have met with people from a wide range of circumstances. People are people in the main,so apart from the size of their fridge and the quality of the holiday all is much of a muchness. Well, that’s not exactly true but it will do for now. The point I am ambling towards is that you meet a broad range of people and one meeting sticks in my mind.
The man was well- rounded as a result of several lunches. I was one of a group of people in the same gathering as him and I was there through a friend. I did not know him directly. He soon started remarking on his latest succesful career moves with unabashed self-admiration before continuing with how he met some celebrity at a famous restaurant and they confirmed to him that he was ,indeed a marvellous fellow. The conversation, or rather his monologue ,continued in much the same vein for some time and I felt my patience starting to wear extremely thin. For the sake of my friend I hung onto it, but it took some doing.
There are things I really dislike: self-importance, boasting unneccessary drama, courtier like slithering personalities but sometimes I miss the point of the vulnerability within. . Why I am so hostile to these aspects of human nature is hard for me to fathom.
We all have behaviours and mannerisms we find hard to handle but through force of circumstance I have been made to notice that people with such characteristics are as likely to be kind or understanding as anyone else. All that happens is that I am so put off by my initial reaction that I cease to examine the character. With those to whom I am more naturally drawn I continue to look at them with curiosity, delighting in them as I might a flower or a wild animal.
It’s nothing more than prejudice really based on a blindness to my own failings which, I presume, I consider to be less troubling than those I find it hard to deal with.
Apart from his pomposity and self admiration there was nothing untoward about the character, and he seemed as decent as the next man. In that room a good range of failings were on display but I could hardly see them for examining his. Over time I have found, once you get to know these people they may be as kind or loyal as the next man but such is my irritation that I missed these aspects of his character. The reason, sadly, is that, in certain circumstances I lack patience. Now there’s a failing for you